Escaping The Solitary Cell: Actionable Advice for Lonely Middle-Aged Guys
Some of the greatest health hazards for middle-aged men include bad diets, too much drinking, and – loneliness?
Yes, you read that right. Being lonely at a ripe age increases one’s risk of stroke, cardiovascular disease, depression, and pretty much any lifestyle-related illness. So, loneliness is more than just feeling sad; it’s a rot that slowly eats you away.
If you’re someone who faces this problem, then I urge you to do something about it; for your health and for the people who love you. In this article, I’d like to offer you a few (hopefully) fresh ideas that could help you, and which you could try out as soon as today!
Finding a romantic partner is probably the best quick-fix for loneliness. Nothing can help you get out of that one-man hole and back into the light like having a new person to share your life with. I know there’s no need to explain why it’s good to have a girlfriend, so I’d like to focus on the “how”.
Did you know that as much as 17% of present-day marriages started through online dating? Yup, it’s true, and if you thought that these websites were only for folks who want to mess around, then you, my friend, were wrong. You don’t have to get married, of course, but who knows what might happen if you meet the right person.
With online dating, the world becomes your playground.
You can register on some dating websites, start a casual conversation with someone who seems interesting, and see how it goes. If you don’t like the person, simply say “Bye”, and move onto the next one. No strings attached.
There are plenty of wonderful people out there, many of them trying to escape loneliness just like yourself, so just think about how good it would be if you were somebody’s way out of that sad state.
2. Get a Sex Doll
Loneliness has two intertwined aspects – mental and physical. The latter might be a lot easier to resolve than you thought, and all you need is some money and an open mind. Yes, I’m suggesting that you get a sex doll.
Before you leave this page in outrage, please, finish reading this section.
I don’t know if you’ve seen the most recent sex dolls, but let me tell you that they’re a long way from that blow-up that they show in Hollywood movies. These are state-of-the-art lifesize dolls that look and feel human, and having sex with them is the next best thing to doing it with a real woman.
They’ll provide you with the kind of sexual release that you can’t get from masturbation. You can try out all the poses that you’ve always wanted to but didn’t dare to ask your previous partners, and thus get satisfied in a new way.
A doll can also be excellent training for folks who wish to date and want to be in the best sexual shape for their future girlfriend. Websites like www.globalrealdoll.com offer plenty of cheap sex dolls to choose from that’ll be delivered to your doorstep. Think about it – this could only do you good!
3. Find new friends
It’s not so simple to make friends when you’re a middle-aged man. Most people at this age have strictly defined social circles that they don’t wish to expand for various reasons. So, what are those reasons? One of the main ones is, of course, work and the busy lifestyle that everyone leads. In other words, people don’t have time to deal with new friends.
OK, so let’s think, what do folks make time for? Family and hobbies. The latter can be your entrance into the “meeting grounds”. There’s no better way of bonding with someone new than sharing the same interests.
Now, think about the things that you like to do or something that you want to try. Once you identify an interest, find an event or a club that deals with it (and accepts newcomers), and pay it a visit.
It would be great if it’s something healthy like hiking, rock climbing, or if you’re more on the intellectual side, a book club. Just talking to people who share your passion can transform even the worst day into a decent one and plant the seeds of a new friendship.
4. Realize that you’re not alone in this
Ironically, you’re not alone in loneliness. More and more people find themselves in this state every year, and we could safely say that it is a trend. So, how can this awareness of other people’s loneliness do you any good?
This realization can help chase away self-pity and redirect your thinking from “me” to “we”. Knowing that you’re not alone in this can help you build the confidence needed to take some of the steps I mentioned in the previous sections. Confidence is a big one because without it, there’s no action, and the best base for building self-esteem is finding a good reason.
Right now, your main reason for taking action in resolving your own suffering, but once you’re aware of other people with this problem, you might get another one – trying to help them out. Having this “together we are stronger” mentality is absolutely vital in the fight against loneliness, so I’ll leave you to think about this.
Solving the problem of loneliness isn’t easy, but it might not be as hard as people are led to believe. More importantly, this is something that needs to be done if you want to have a truly happy and fulfilled life.
There are many more things that you can do, and the ideas that I offered are just the tip of the iceberg. I hope that this article will inspire and motivate you to do something about your situation, and hopefully, find your way out. Remember, where there’s hope, solutions are always around the corner.